Feeling like you are in funkytown this time of year? While some may feel like “it’s the most wonderful time of the year” others feel like a holiday blues traveler. The season is filled with magic, sparkles, family, friends, food and light– but amongst all of that can also lead to social anxiety, stress, obligation, resentment and jealous feelings.
December in general, can also leave us feeling burned out and downright depressed. *raises hand*
I know myself well and can anticipate the holiday burnout and crash before it arrives. Yet year after year, it still hits me. Yes, me. The self-proclaimed balanced woman who does yoga, meditates, sits with her magic and now is living each day in my little dream job world.
I get better, each year at expecting and knowing when its coming and what to do when it gets here. And here is what works for me: do nothing. Let myself off the hook.
I’m constantly pushing the envelope, creating and serving others all year long. December SHOULD be a time of pushing just a little bit more–being it the busiest shopping season of the year. However, the last thing I want to do is create and market and be in your inbox every other day, selling. Ew.
So– I let myself settle in funkytown for about 2 weeks. That’s my limit. I binge watch tv (I never, ever really watch tv), I buy and read all the tabloid magazines I can get my hands on. I paint my nails. A lot. I order a lot of books from Amazon. And I marinate in new material. If I feel like cooking, I cook. If I feel like treating myself with carry-out every other night, I do that. And I don’t feel bad about it.
I typically don’t create- until I feel I’m good and ready. Trying to create when you aren’t feeling especially creative is the worst. And, it creates crap nobody wants. Double ew.
We are so hard on ourselves, myself included. Whether your funkytown strikes in December or July or somewhere in between- notice when you need to chill the fuck out. Then do that. What works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another.
So what makes me feel better? I do some or all of the below. Most of the time, it works. It might perk me up for the hour, for the day or be just the think I need to get in the holiday spirit. The Grinch isn’t stealing my christmas #thankyouverymuch. I’m in charge, I determine and make choices on how I want to feel, and so should you. But don’t just talk about them. Actually, do them. As Danielle LaPorte says “love your sadness, it won’t last.”
Try these things to start feeling more jolly inside:
- Listen to a short, guided meditation each morning. Short. Guided. Not alone and 20 minutes. The last thing I feel like doing when I’m feeling shitty is another “thing” and I certainly don’t need to feel bad about “not meditating” or not “doing yoga”. I typically have a pair of earbuds right on my bedside table, and before my feet even hit the floor to go pee- I’m listening to Deepak or Oprah or someone with a soothing voice. Starting your day off with positivity is SO important. More to come on that this year 😉
- Re-do and decorate your sacred space according to the season, or even how you are feeling. I do a little altar renovation whenever I’m not feeling what is currently up there. Your altar should…..ALTernate. It should reflect what you need/wish/are working on and want to call in. Feeling blue? Feeling lost? Bring in some citrine for positivity and angel aura quartz to connect with your angel guides. Light a new intention or affirmation candle. Gather some of nature outside and bring it inside (pinecones, rocks, branches) and if you are FEELING crafty, glitz them up a bit with some metallic paint. Purchase a new statue, crystal or totem to keep around. Treat yourself. You deserve it.
- If gathering with others makes you want to run and hide- then run and hide. You have my permission. But please, find a balance. You know damn well when you are having social anxiety and when you don’t feel like washing your hair. There’s a difference. Allow yourself the time and space to be alone- but if you are going to be alone- then you better damn enjoy it! Don’t be alone to sulk and feel sorry for yourself. Once in a while is ok- but just like you need your alone time- you also need people time.
- Connect with a group of people who love to support. You don’t have to be local to connect with a group of like minded souls. We are ALL around the globe! Aaahh- I have just the group! Click here to connect with our inner circle, they are amazing and awesome.
- Treat yo’self. Get the massage. Buy the new comfy, luxury sweater. Get your hair and nails did. Grab a new planner or something to HELP you to start turning your brain back on. Think about the future. Visualize, what you want and how you want to feel. Sleep.
After you’ve done some or all of the above and have ALLOWED yourself the time to simmer in your sadness- its time to start re-entering the world. And its just that simple, and just that hard. At some point- we need to return to gratitude. Life might not feel great right now, but what can you be grateful for? Start with a list, then expand on that.
When faced with your family or an awkward work christmas party- approach it from a space of gratitude. Start with the obvious. You have a family to sit and eat dinner with. You have a job which allows you to do x,y,z. You have that new luxury comfy sweater and money to get your hair did. Rub some peppermint oil on your temples, put on some red lipstick, drink a glass of champagne and meditate (for only 5 minutes) in the morning. Your future self will thank you 🙂
Join us for the first round of Desire Map workshops of 2016! We will get to the core of your gratitude, find and define your CDF’s (core desired feelings) then learn how to incorporate them into our daily lives. This life-changing work starts in February and I’m holding space for YOU. Grab your spot here.